What you Believe is What You Get

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What you Believe is What You Get

As humans, we accumulate a set of beliefs and assumptions that help us navigate life on this earth.  And somehow along the way, we become certain that those beliefs and assumptions are correct! Remember that, once upon a time, people believed with certainty that the earth was flat.  The first few people who discovered that the earth was in fact round were told to take that belief back, or they would be killed!  Breaking through those culturally acquired beliefs can sometimes be hazardous.  Learning to question your thoughts and your beliefs can be not only life changing but a marvelous experience. 

Most of us have acquired faulty beliefs such as: “it’s hard to make a lot of money, opportunities are limited, it’s so hard to find the right partner, there is so much sickness around,  I am just not good at ….” When we believe these thoughts, somehow life confirms this for us by giving us exactly what we believe.  There is a 1 to 3 percent of the population who believes differently.  They believe that there are plenty of opportunities, that one can have loving relationships, and they see challenges as opportunities.  I spent 6 years of my life believing that I couldn’t speak English.  I would say:  “it’s too hard,”  “I just don’t get it,” “the teacher doesn’t like me,”  etc.  When I graduated from high school, I felt so relieved I would never have to deal with the English language again.  Little did I know that I would be coming to this country, and I would have to learn the language if I wanted to enjoy my life here.  After I changed my belief system from “I can’t” to “I can” it took me just one year to become bilingual and proficient enough to have conversations in English.  What a surprise!  The truth is that I could have done it all along, but I held myself back because of my beliefs and assumptions.  This new found belief took me much further than just learning English.  I decided to go back to college, finish my degree, and along the way, I thought I could also get a master’s degree, and then later on the thought came: “maybe I can have my own business.”  All of it came true. It happened because I was willing to change my thoughts and beliefs.  I liked this changing of thoughts and beliefs so much that this is now what I do for a living as a therapist and as a life coach by helping other to change their thoughts and beliefs.

Can we actually change our lives by changing our thoughts?  Life has proven again and again that yes, indeed we can change our life by changing our thoughts and beliefs.  Where does one begin?  There are thousands of thoughts swimming in our minds any given day.  It seems like such a giant task! To change your thoughts and your belief system takes time and conscious effort.  It is as challenging as learning a foreign language.  Most people give up the idea of a foreign language because it takes consistent practice for a period of time.  Through the process you have to stay focused on the end goal, and you have to remind yourself that you will get there if you don’t give up along the way.  You begin by making a decision on what needs change in your life, then you have to take action on it, and then you have to persevere.  That is the recipe!  No more complicated than that.  Begin today to create the life you want: make a decision on what kind of life you want to have, take the necessary steps to begin the journey and most importantly, persevere.


Veronica Correa, LCSW-C, is a licensed clinical social worker and life coach. To learn more about her work visit: www.thepersonalwellnesscenter.com or call 410-742-6016